MONTREAL, Quebec, Nov. 28, 2020 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ -- Wanting
to be loved, and to belong, is a basic human need. It comes with
the promise of physical and emotional security, companionship, and
an extra pair of hands on moving day. However, there's a delicate
balance that needs to be struck between the desire to be loved or
liked, and the need to be liked. A study conducted by the
researchers at Queendom.com indicates that people who are insistent
upon being liked by everyone they meet tend to have lower
self-esteem, are less happy, and are less resilient than people who
don't seek collective approval.
Analyzing data from 12, 259 who took their Emotional
Intelligence Test, researchers at Queendom focused on two unique
subgroups: People who really want to be liked by everyone ("High
need for approval") and people who don't ("Low need for approval").
The two groups were then compared on 30 emotional intelligence
factors, revealing a number of noteworthy differences:
(Note: Scores range on a scale from 0 to 100. The higher the
score, the stronger the trait/skill. Average scores for each group
are shown.)
SELF-CONCEPT
Self-esteem
> Score for the High need for approval group: 55
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 75
Self-efficacy
> Score for the High need for approval group: 57
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 75
Self-confidence
> Score for the High need for approval group: 52
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 69
Assertiveness
> Score for the High need for approval group: 45
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 62
STRESS MANAGEMENT
Positive Mindset
> Score for the High need for approval group: 57
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 71
Contentment
> Score for the High need for approval group: 53
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 69
Resilience
> Score for the High need for approval group: 63
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 78
Adaptability
> Score for the High need for approval group: 50
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 63
SELF-REGULATION
Self-awareness
> Score for the High need for approval group: 59
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 71
Self-control
> Score for the High need for approval group: 48
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 63
Self-motivation
> Score for the High need for approval group: 55
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 72
Obsessive Rumination
> Score for the High need for approval group: 63
> Score for the Low need for approval group: 36
"There's nothing wrong with wanting to be liked," explains Dr.
Jerabek, president of PsychTests, the parent company of Queendom.
"Most people want to have friends, to be in a loving relationship,
to connect with their coworkers, or to get 'likes' on social media
posts. However, if this desire becomes obsessive to the point where
you get very upset if someone doesn't want to be friends with you,
or you go to great lengths to be liked - changing your appearance,
fading personal boundaries, eschewing your values or posting
dangerous stunts on social media in order to get one's 15 minutes
of fame - then it's a problem. Evidently, it's hard to accept when
someone doesn't like you. But that doesn't mean there's something
wrong with you - it's just a case of two people, two personalities,
not melding very well together. Wanting everyone to like you is
simply not feasibleā¦and shouldn't even matter. Just focus on the
love you have, even if it's just from one other person, or a pet.
Better yet, aim to love yourself more rather than seeking it from
everyone else."
Want to assess your EQ? Check out
https://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=3978
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About PsychTests AIM Inc.
PsychTests AIM Inc. appeared on the internet scene in 1996. Since
its inception, it has become a pre-eminent provider of
psychological assessment products and services to human resource
personnel, therapists, academics, researchers and a host of other
professionals around the world. PsychTests AIM Inc. staff is
comprised of a dedicated team of psychologists, test developers,
researchers, statisticians, writers, and artificial intelligence
experts (see ARCHProfile.com).
Media Contact
Ilona Jerabek, PsychTests AIM
Inc., 514-745-3189, ilona@psychtests.com
SOURCE Queendom.com