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[aerotus] 25/1/2007 15:53

Bodgit - Maybe 3rd time lucky eh. LOL!

[bodgit] 25/1/2007 15:49

jj7, have been married twice! Now happily single. Get legal advice ASAP. Issues of a) separation and its cause b)children and c) money are essentially separate matters - unless there was violence or similar nasties involved. Do NOT trust your former partner an inch. Keep it sweet as possible and try and reach an amicable agreement but absolutely get it legally recorded. Now, thats the easy bit because you can get it done and dusted in a short time. The really tough part is the children. I could go on for hours about that but all I will say is ALWAYS remember that you and your (former) partner's task is to ensure that your children continue to enjoy their rights of access to you both. If you can remember that, it just might stop war breaking out over children - they are what really matter. Things like money or your own hurt/bitter/angry etc feelings are short term and you should move on from them quite soon. Good luck and FWIW, hope it works out for the best for all of you.

[cashmagnet] 25/1/2007 15:04

i'm playing with my willy, is that wrong? ;o)

[aerotus] 25/1/2007 12:01

Yeah, she's a big one ain't she! lol

[scotty1] 25/1/2007 11:37

Must have jumped on you then Aerotus :)

[aerotus] 25/1/2007 11:36

I have one on my foreskin

[siwel100] 25/1/2007 11:23

ok...so anyone with a nasty skin rash they want diagnosed? ....:)

[jacobjohn7] 25/1/2007 11:20

thanks guys for all input.

[siwel100] 25/1/2007 11:08

jacobjohn...go by yourself to see a solicitor as soon as possible. Make sure you have a list of main assets identifying which are in your name, which in your partners and those joint, do the same for debts....
Decide in yourself if you wish to care for the children and if necessary fight for custody.
Explain the current situation fully and ask for advice on what assets you can legally claim. Then ask for advice on the steps that a informal "agreed" breaking of the relationship entails....and what could happen if it gets nasty.
Once you have guidance you can then decide how you wish to manage the break down of the relationship.
In the first instance you are looking for legal advice, should it be required then you can shop around for a "specialist" in common law relationships.

[rob008] 25/1/2007 11:02

Phone citizen's advice, child support agency, with respect to assets speak to a solicitor. Don't do anything irrational. Be mega nice to your ex - best advice.

[scotty1] 25/1/2007 10:57

In that case JJ no more posts from me :)

[jacobjohn7] 25/1/2007 10:55

well clear as mud then... anyone care to summerise... (and dont put you are screwed!) lol.

[siwel100] 25/1/2007 10:39

ROBOO8...But child carer can retain house and very rarely refused. Only if child carer has alternative accomodation AND happy for other party to take house as part of settlement will the house go elsewhere.
If designated child carer, then assets split according to agreement but additional benefit of retaining use of house until youngest child 18. In addition the child carer recieves the child support.
You are spot on with regards to common law wife. If assets have been built during relationship but are in partners name then can be very difficult to extract them. Even if financial support was given, unless done by contract its near impossible to reclaim the monies.

[uknighted] 25/1/2007 10:39

Cash Are you legally bound :-)

[cashmagnet] 25/1/2007 10:38

ive got piles, its not nice. i just wanted to share that ;o)

[uknighted] 25/1/2007 10:37

ROB/JJ Whatever is agreed there needs to be some sort of documentation that says "in full and final settlement" signed by both parties. Sometimes it is worth the expense of legal costs just to make sure that the agreement is fully binding. Regards UK

[william-just] 25/1/2007 10:31

and you can still claim family tax credits

[rob008] 25/1/2007 10:29

No such thing as common law wife jj in a legal sense - urban myth, child carer does not neccesarily have to live in house. No need for solicitors to get involved unless things can't be split evenly. You will have to pay child support at 20% of your income.

Forget adultery you were not married - common law wife doesn't exist - ask a solicitor, I did that's how I know. Legally I don't think you have any right to anything in her name.

[aerotus] 25/1/2007 10:26

Wow - And Cash thought HE had problems! Good luck JJ.

[uknighted] 25/1/2007 10:24

JJ whatever you may agree with your partner make sure it will "stand up in court", i.e. make sure it is legally documented. All the best.
Regards UK

[scotty1] 25/1/2007 10:24

JJ re post 2439,What you need mate is a damn good solicitor to prove adultery
was the cause of the initial split,but as siwel says she'll probably
counter attack with why she was driven to it,whichever way it's got to be proven and It all gets very nasty as the case goes on.But when it comes down to it,the one with the best solicitor wins.If you coud prove that was the cause
you have a lot better chance with kids money etc.Best of luck mate.

[jacobjohn7] 25/1/2007 10:12

well, entini, this company has left alot with alot less in their pockets, and despite the madness on here sometimes... the zoo bb thread has developed into something bigger rather like an online communuity... ;o) And despite us all being foolish enough to invest in this time and time again.. there are still some people who appear on the thread who I do value the opinions of, and there intelligence.